For Couples Desiring To Enjoy Sweet And Exciting Marriage
A look at our society today, one will observe that divorce rate is on the increase. Many marriages are engulfed in crises and some are at the verge of collapse.
If you look at some of the marriages that had collapsed or going for divorce, you will observe that some of these marriages started very well but today these marriages are no more because they may have done what made their marriages crash.
In this post, we shall be looking at some basic issues which couples who are desiring to move from having marital crises to enjoying sweet and exciting marriages must implement in their marriages.
In the first instance, I wish to point out that there is no marriage that is beyond salvaging, meaning that no matter the current state of your marriage, you can turn that marriage around, and start enjoying sweet and exciting marriage if the two of you will be diligent to implement these basic marriage principles.
First, couples should be committed to obeying Biblical principles: In the first instance, couple who wish to enjoy sweet and exciting marriage, they must be committed to obeying this Biblical principle as can be seen in Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her; also Ephesians 5:28 “So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself”.
The other side of that principle can be seen in Ephesians 5:22 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord”; also Colossians 3:18 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord”.
See also 1st Peter 3:1a “Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands”. Couples who jettison this instruction can never enjoy their marriage to the fullness, that is, they can never enjoy sweet and exciting marriage.
In other words, any marriage in which the man of the house fail to love the wife dearly and unconditionally and the woman in that marriage fails to be submissive to her husband, they can never enjoy a sweet and exciting marriage.
Secondly, couples should love each other dearly: That the Bible said that men should love their wives is not to say that women should not love their husbands in marriages. In fact, the level of love couples have for each other determines whether such couples will enjoy sweet and exciting marriage.
This is because the Bible said in 1st Peter 4:8 that “love will cover a multitude of sins.” Whether a couple will enjoy a sweet and exciting marriage is determined by the level of love they have for each other.
Thirdly, couples should have strong trust for each other: In another development, what do you think that causes couples in a marriage to begin to suspect one another? One major reason is because they lack trust for each other.
I have never seen couples that don’t have strong trust for each other that will enjoy sweet and exciting marriage. So, in addition to having strong love for each other, couples whose desire is to enjoy a sweet and exciting marriage, they must have strong trust for each other
Fourthly, couples should be committed to your marriage and each other: Again couples whose desire is to enjoy a sweet and exciting marriage, they must be committed wholeheartedly to their marriage and to each other.
In marriages, it takes two to tango, so the two must show real commitment to each other and to their marriage. But what is seen in marriages quite often are couples who are partially committed to their marriage yet they expect to enjoy a sweet and exciting marriage.
Fiftly, couples should learn to satisfy each other’s sexual need: Moreover, couples who desire to enjoy sweet and exciting marriages, they must learn to enjoy their sex life to the fullness. The problem with most marriages is that in such marriages, most men don’t know how to satisfy their wives on the bed while most women are fond of denying or starving their husbands of sex.
If couples will learn to satisfy each other sexually at all time, there is no reason why they will not enjoy sweet and exciting marriage.
Sixtly, couples should learn to avoid Offences: couples who wish to enjoy sweet and exciting marriage, then they must learn to avoid offences and must never keep malice against each other. Because we are two distinct individuals, couples may at times mistakenly step on each other’s toe. .
Such offence must never be allowed to linger, rather the person that wronged should accept and apologise while the person that was wronged should forgive and forget. Never keep a diary of wrong doings of your spouse if you are to enjoy sweet and exciting marriage.
The number Seven point, couples should learn to manage Conflicts well: In marriages, conflicts especially conflicts of interest most a time arise in a course of their day to day relationships. I wish to point out that conflicts are what helps couples to adjust adequately to each other.
For that reason, couples who desires to have sweet and exciting marriage must learn to manage their conflicts. Conflicts should never be allowed to degenerate into quarrels. Couples whose marriages are sweet and exciting learnt to use the word “I am sorry” to cure conflicts.
Finally, as a married man, you should totally avoid beating your wife and Woman, you should never open your mouth to abuse your husband: This is another serious matter. I have never seen men who raise their hands to beat their wives and women who raise their voices to abuse their husband that will ever enjoy sweet and exciting marriage.
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